(01-23-2010 09:07 PM)You CAN Avoid the Floyd Wrote:  

(01-23-2010 08:23 PM)Electrophile Wrote:  Just catching up on a few pages I've missed thus far......I don't know if Brad was talking about me or not, but I don't find cuss words offensive, hell I swear like a sailor in real life. If you somehow want to equate me having a problem with you all using the word "rape" in a joking manner to me being offended by adult language, you'd be wrong in doing that. I've gotten around the word filter here myself a few times and if the mods don't want me to do that anymore, drop me a line and I won't do it again.

I've been personally affected by rape. Not because I myself was raped, but because someone very close to me was. Maybe I needed to qualify my problem with it so that maybe someone would actually take it seriously. I get that this is the internet and people say horrific crap all the time, but if someone says to you "hey, that's really offensive to me".....the smart and decent thing to do is acknowledge that and not act like because it's no big deal to you, it's no big deal to everyone else. When I hear people joking about it, it makes me uncomfortable. I like this place, and I like the people who post here. I've met some really interesting and fun people in the 3 months I've been a member. I feel like though, I shouldn't have to be saying any of this to you.


Just felt like putting my $0.02 out there.

Well said, Beth. I wasn't talking about you, just people in general. Also, I'm sure that the people using "rape" so casually didn't really know any better, and it's become such a regular word in their vocabulary, that the actual meaning has become insignificant to them.

Aside from that, I'm sorry for your situation, and, if you don't mind me asking, how is your friend doing after her attack?

No, I don't mind you asking. She's doing much better now than she was 6 months ago. And in 6 months, she'll be doing better than she is now. The first few months afterward, she stayed with me and my family because she couldn't be alone. She slept in my bedroom, on the floor, in a sleeping bag. It broke my damn heart. This is a person I've known 25 years. Of our group of friends, she was always the strongest one, physically and mentally. Nothing rattled her. She could walk through the projects wearing $5 million dollars worth of diamonds and not be scared for one second she'd get mugged. She wasn't reckless, she just didn't scare easily.

She's living in a new apartment now with a roommate who's a really great person and she was able to go back to work and get the majority of her routine back. She's my hero.